Daniel offers man-friendly personal coaching; a safe and trustworthy coaching environment where men get to explore issues pertinent to the masculine psyche. They learn how to become more effective leaders in the world by aligning their lives to their core values and life purpose. They develop finely-tuned emotional intelligence skills, fostering healthier relationships in the workplace and at home. Men will encounter a mature journey around masculinity that expresses their values, fosters wisdom, curiosity and compassion.
An expert in masculine dynamics, Daniel has been guiding men towards a deeper sense of presence, purpose and aliveness since 2002. He has worked extensively with men from many walks of life, race and sexual orientations.
Men are often estranged from their inner worlds – their needs, feelings and desires. Having access to their emotions wasn’t part of their early programming about how to be a man. Their alienation from themselves makes it hard to really connect in relationships. The isolation of men is pervasive. Research shows that as men age they often have only one male friend and their social networks, compared to those of women, are much less dense and more fragile.
Shutting down in relationships
This conditioning and social isolation often creates a negative cycle. Men who have never experienced a nourishing relationship don’t believe relationships can be sustaining and satisfying in a persistent way. Once they enter into a committed relationship, they feel pressure to be emotionally available but they lack the skills to do so. They don’t know how to be a strong man and be emotionally attuned. Their withdrawal or ambivalence can lead to their partner being critical or demanding, driving them further into their isolation and belief that relationships cannot be satisfying.
Some men, particularly those who had overbearing, critical or abusive fathers and other authority figures, become meek and ambivalent in their relationships. They drift with no real sense of purpose and without making strong choices. Other men are highly comfortable with the power and privilege that traditional social structures have provided them. They tend to be deeply uncomfortable with vulnerability and displays of emotion in themselves or in others. They fall back on habits of rigidity and anger.
Daniel helps his male to understand and unpack their rigid habits of shutting down or getting angry. He assists them to understand the underlying emotions that drive their feelings of being suffocated and bored in relationships. Men often come to Daniel because they want newness but don’t know how to create it. They don’t know what to do after the honeymoon phase. With Daniel they learn how to continually foster a relationship, bringing richness and excitement to it and getting more of what they need.
Fear of seeking help
Men are frequently conditioned to contain emotions and be chronically self-sufficient. This may have been a way to be accepted and belong in their family as a child. This stops them from seeking help or counsel, because they fear feeling like a failure and the stigma that there is something ‘wrong’ with them.
Dealing with difficult emotions or struggling to navigate complex relationships is not a sign of weakness or a reason to feel shame. These feelings are so common amongst men that they are symptom of the society that we live in. Seeking support a psychotherapist is a sign of courage and a willingness to become emotionally responsible – to become accountable for your own well-being. Daniel firmly believes that a more integrated man is one who is able to honestly name his own strengths and weaknesses in the company of others, and work towards his own maturation as a man with humility.
Daniel's direct, no BS style, immediately cut through to the core of what was creating problems in my relationship and helped me figure out what to do about it.
Since I have started talking to Daniel, I have found that my approach and outlook to happenings great and small have changed. Daniel has helped me to understand my reaction to certain situations, and to accept my reaction and have more choice in the steps that I follow, with a more informed outlook. I look forward to my regular meetings with Daniel and though I still feel that I have a long road to reach my goal, I do feel that I am making positive progress to being more aware of myself and my emotions.
Working with Daniel and joining his Men’s Group has been a life-changing experience. Hearing stories from all walks of life and understanding how to appreciate men’s universal struggles has made a real difference for me. Daniel is able to create an environment in which it is possible to drop that mask many of us throw on to get through everyday life.
The Mens Group encourages us to be in the moment, and open- something very rare for me. It’s a safe haven where you listen, express and share experiences and knowledge. Soon you realize that as well as dealing with your own stuff, by listening and sharing, we are all helping each other. Why doesn’t everybody do this? It is the most natural thing to do, we seem to edit out this brotherly bonding in the ‘outside world. I thoroughly recommend it.
It is an incredibly rare time when a bunch of guys can sit in a room without distractions, where egos are left at the door ; a level playing field to express exactly what is on your mind and listen to others that get to do the same. Nobody’s judging and it’s all completely private. The sense of relief is enormous when you realize there’s a whole load of us guys dealing with our shit in our own silos.
Daniel is so willing, as a facilitator and leader, to open himself in such a pure and loving way that deeply serves others by his presence and authenticity. It is rare to see someone so able to show up in such a real and vulnerable way, while simultaneously holding the space and intention of the whole group with such love, integrity and wisdom.
I have never come across a man with such fire in his heart! His eyes penetrate right through you and he has the ability to see your true self. Daniel is one of the most loving, devoted, caring individuals I have ever worked with.
He’s a gifted leader and men’s coach. He has razor sharp insights, and always delivers them with strength and gentleness. His personal integrity, and willingness to share and live what he teaches, has helped me to be a more open, loving, and stronger man.
Working with Daniel has been life changing. He exudes “living in the moment”. Just sitting next to him, I sense a calm within myself that I’ve not known otherwise. The weeks that I spent in group work with Daniel have shown me more of myself than I ever could have imagined, and I am better for it.
I have found Daniel to possess a truly unique ability to cut through to the real core of an issue and offer genuinely useful, insightful perspective. He’s extremely attuned, sensitive and nurturing but at the same time knows when to challenge me, to provoke thought. I have learnt so much, and developed more than I ever expected, and live a fuller, more genuine life. Eye-opening is an understatement for my experience…and I plan on continuing it